Today was my first annual visit since having my daughter, and I'd been wondering. Would my doctor ask the standard (dreaded by me) question, "So are you taking birth control?" I hate this question. I cringe at the thought of the question. First, it assumes wrongly that I would ever want to prevent another pregnancy. Are you crazy? Prevent a FREE pregnancy without injections, and loans, and pain? Ha ha ha ha! And second, it presumes that I could ever get pregnant without massive help (plus incredible luck), which feels like the questioner obviously missed my whole medical reproductive history somewhere.
So I was curious. I know that it's a standard question. Part of the script for the annual visit. Would she ask?
She DID NOT.
Smart woman. Awesome woman.
She DID ask all about my daughter Magpie. All about my work. My life. She DID ask to see pictures and watched some iphone video of my beautiful girl with me.
She had read my test results from my yearly internal medicine visit in October...and cited all of the bloodwork results from memory. (Sharp lady!)
She DID ask about my glucose control and health in general. (Excellent clinician!)
She DID ask open-endedly about our plans and thoughts about having another Magpie. (Excellent human being!)
She recommended I see a cardiologist and get a holter monitor because I've been having an arrhythmia.
She recommended I get a diagnostic mammogram and ultrasound soon because she felt a lump in my right breast.
She recommended I see an endocrinologist because despite the significant weight loss, my glucose is still not right.
And so I will do all of these things.
Toward the end of the visit, we had a little chat about the three frozen embryos, and about the hell of depot lupron and IVIG, during which she expressed optimism for another baby for us until I reminded her that my beautiful girl is the result of 110 eggs retrieved across the years (I know she is well aware of the 6 pregnancy losses, so I didn't bring it up).
We ended the appointment with me thanking my OBGYN for helping get my daughter here safely and my OBGYN saying, "She really IS a miracle."
That she is. And I'm the luckiest woman in the world.
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