Two starcrossed lovers in search of a poopy diaper. Join us on our adventures through IVF, recurrent miscarriage, and finally...life on the other side as parents.
HA HA HA!!! That's all I can say! I have been meaning to comment on your post because I recently saw a bumper sticker that read something like "motherhood is the most powerful profession"....
I just miscarried for the 1st time and everyone has said to me, "At least you know you can get pregnant." Or my personal favorite, "You're young and you weren't trying that long." I know that my journey TTC (3 months) is nothing, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, compared to what many women have been through, but losing my baby was SOMETHING to me.
It really does feel like that doesn't it? They should make that card. I know people mean well, but hearing about how maybe the baby just wasn't meant for us DOES NOT help me. When our adoption fell through, it didn't feel like that at all. And waiting to concieve sucks.
I've had many, many, many women recommend this one Fertility specialist, and I just wasn't interested. Every woman has to decide what she's up for with regards to her body, and I drew the line at shots. I was not going to do shots. Don't like needles. If I could take a pill, I took it. And was so hopelessly sick TTC. I already knew I was a weakling and wouldn't be up for all that...but other women are made of stronger stuff and that sounds like you. I admire that you could do IVF.
Everyone has to make a choice for themselves. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for it. I learned to talk honestly about my feelings through all this and to just shut people down right away when they made suggestions we had already researched and dismissed. If I hadn't, I would have never heard the end of it.
Sorry for the rambling...your card just made it all spill out!
I just discovered your blog. Great minds think alike! I made an IF card this year but DH vetoed actually mailing it to people. Still, it's posted on my blog if you want to take a peek:
Heh. Heard several of these more times than I ever want to admit. And my personal favorite is the "I know just how you feel, took 6 months" one. Brings a whole new dimension to the word "clueless".
Love it!
And if I don't get my sorry a$$ back on here before the holidays strike, you and Will and Moxie have a lovely low-stress Christmas!
I truly madly (emphasis on 'mad'ly) deeply love your hallmark rejects. They really make me belly laugh (rare) - and yep, copped most of those comments over the 3+ year journey of 6 first trimester miscarriages (currently going through one, oy vey) and the death of our 2 girls in the second tri.
And yep, I'm the twisted infertile bumper sticker person too.
I do have some real doozies that people have said to me over the years, but I think I'll keep that private for now cause like I said - they're real doozies. (One relatively tame example was that "my 'habitual aborter' status is all part of g-d's greater plan for me" which would one day make sense to me - apparently "he's" holding my hand through this "trying times" ... hmmm yeah, still waiting for the 'make sense' part!)
Wish you both a sane, peaceful and hopefully 'fertile' 'happy beginnings' (bitter chuckle! been saying that for myself for a few years now!) new year.
Your blog keeps getting better and better! Your older articles are not as good as newer ones you have a lot more creativity and originality now keep it up!
My HSG radiologist told me I just needed to try harder. This was after he jokingly asked if my husband even wanted anymore children (since my husband has already had a child, he wanted to know the age of his teenage daughter.)
HA HA HA!!! That's all I can say! I have been meaning to comment on your post because I recently saw a bumper sticker that read something like "motherhood is the most powerful profession"....
ReplyDeleteYou've got talent! Do you plan on turning these into a coffee table book at some point?
ReplyDeleteMuah!
ReplyDeleteI just miscarried for the 1st time and everyone has said to me, "At least you know you can get pregnant." Or my personal favorite, "You're young and you weren't trying that long." I know that my journey TTC (3 months) is nothing, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, compared to what many women have been through, but losing my baby was SOMETHING to me.
ReplyDeleteIt really does feel like that doesn't it? They should make that card. I know people mean well, but hearing about how maybe the baby just wasn't meant for us DOES NOT help me. When our adoption fell through, it didn't feel like that at all. And waiting to concieve sucks.
ReplyDeleteI've had many, many, many women recommend this one Fertility specialist, and I just wasn't interested. Every woman has to decide what she's up for with regards to her body, and I drew the line at shots. I was not going to do shots. Don't like needles. If I could take a pill, I took it. And was so hopelessly sick TTC. I already knew I was a weakling and wouldn't be up for all that...but other women are made of stronger stuff and that sounds like you. I admire that you could do IVF.
Everyone has to make a choice for themselves. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for it. I learned to talk honestly about my feelings through all this and to just shut people down right away when they made suggestions we had already researched and dismissed. If I hadn't, I would have never heard the end of it.
Sorry for the rambling...your card just made it all spill out!
This is fabulous! : )
ReplyDeleteLove this one!! And I have heard about everything on it! Thanks for the laugh!
ReplyDeleteLove it! Love it! Love it!
ReplyDeleteperfect!
ReplyDeleteThe only way this could be any better would be if she had tufts of hair (pulled out at the roots, of course) dangling between her fingers.
ReplyDeleteFantastic as always Mo and Will!
This is the best one yet. I totally want a copy of this in hard-copy. And then I'll just flash it when people say one - or more! - of the comments.
ReplyDeleteLOL My most hated comment :at least you know you can get pregnant" I JUST WANT TO SCREAM WHEN PEOPLE SAY THAT!
ReplyDeleteI needed this today!!!!
ReplyDeleteI just discovered your blog. Great minds think alike! I made an IF card this year but DH vetoed actually mailing it to people. Still, it's posted on my blog if you want to take a peek:
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Beautiful. The best yet.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, how do you come up with this? I LOVE it!
ReplyDeleteOne word: LOVE!
ReplyDeleteI swear that's a picture of me at family gatherings! Awesome! And gearing up for another one! Yahhh!!! Happy happy joy joy!! T
ReplyDeleteHeh. Heard several of these more times than I ever want to admit. And my personal favorite is the "I know just how you feel, took 6 months" one. Brings a whole new dimension to the word "clueless".
ReplyDeleteLove it!
And if I don't get my sorry a$$ back on here before the holidays strike, you and Will and Moxie have a lovely low-stress Christmas!
I nominated you for an award.
ReplyDeleteMy favorite one to date! Keep 'em coming.
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Lol! Thanks for the laugh, I needed it!
ReplyDeleteLove it!
ReplyDeleteSeriously, have you talked to people in the card market yet? You have a true talent and deserve a gig with Halmark.
ReplyDeleteMo and Will could educate the world!
I truly madly (emphasis on 'mad'ly) deeply love your hallmark rejects. They really make me belly laugh (rare) - and yep, copped most of those comments over the 3+ year journey of 6 first trimester miscarriages (currently going through one, oy vey) and the death of our 2 girls in the second tri.
ReplyDeleteAnd yep, I'm the twisted infertile bumper sticker person too.
I do have some real doozies that people have said to me over the years, but I think I'll keep that private for now cause like I said - they're real doozies. (One relatively tame example was that "my 'habitual aborter' status is all part of g-d's greater plan for me" which would one day make sense to me - apparently "he's" holding my hand through this "trying times" ... hmmm yeah, still waiting for the 'make sense' part!)
Wish you both a sane, peaceful and hopefully 'fertile' 'happy beginnings' (bitter chuckle! been saying that for myself for a few years now!) new year.
Take care,
S
Your blog keeps getting better and better! Your older articles are not as good as newer ones you have a lot more creativity and originality now keep it up!
ReplyDeleteMy HSG radiologist told me I just needed to try harder. This was after he jokingly asked if my husband even wanted anymore children (since my husband has already had a child, he wanted to know the age of his teenage daughter.)
ReplyDeleteWow.