We had a scare today. I started spotting.
When I saw it, I was immediately terrified. I thought - Oh God, here we go, I'll spot today and by the weekend I'll be miscarrying in the ER. I was filled with dread.
Luckily, we were able to reach the RE's office and he said I could come in immediately. He did yet another ultrasound, saw the heartbeat, and said everything looked "just great." He said many women have spotting in the first trimester and to try not to be too stressed. He said I'll read that 40% of women who have bleeding go on to miscarry but that he thinks that number is inflated by pregnancies in which the heartbeat hasn't yet been seen.
Then he said, "When did I last see you, Monday?" and I felt so sheepish and apologized profusely for coming in and getting another scan. He said, "No. It's OK. I completely understand. You can come in as many times as you want."
And I joked that I might as well move into the office.
He said, "No seriously. I really don't care. You can come in as much as you want. You don't even need to call. You know what days I'm here, so just come in if you need to. I'll see you, anytime." As we left, he said, "Take care of yourselves."
Oh, I seriously love this man. The next few weeks are looking to be about 8 years long. Here's hoping all three of us (Will, me, and Embryo) get through it sane and alive.
Mo
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Oh Mo - I am so sorry for the spotting scare - that is horribly scary but I am glad to hear that things are still looking good. I talked to a woman who spotted through her entire pregnancy - she has a 19 year old that bothers her all the time - which is too sweet. I hate spotting though - and for me it has always meant bad things too. ((HUGS))
ReplyDeleteI am sorry you had the scare and I hope it turns out ok. You're RE totally rocks. Makes me kind of want to cheat on mine though I love her.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for the scare. I had 7 weeks of bleeding with my DS, so I know just how terrifying it can be. Try to relax and stay off of your feet for the weekend. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for the scare, but so pleased that it turned out ok. I'll second the previous poster, though, and urge to you stay off your feet this weekend. Relax (hah) and take it easy (hahahahah)
ReplyDeleteThinking of you.
Like I said in my email, I've had this same thing happen to me - even on vacation! I spotted with my first and second kids...both times it was just a little bit and both times I just tried my best to stay calm, knownig that if I was going to m/c there wans't anything to be done about it and freaking out wouldn't help the baby at all.
ReplyDeleteJust relax this weekend and I'll have my fingers crossed for you!
What an awesome doc you have. I'm so glad you went to the RE instead of the ER. Here's to hoping it stays that way!
ReplyDeleteI am thinking happy thoughts for all three of you. May the next few weeks fly by quickly and with no complications!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you had a scare. You're RE is awesome!!!
ReplyDeleteTry and relax and take it easy this weekend.
So so sorry for your scare, and BLESS the doctor for totally and completely getting it. I swear not one bit of this is for the faint hearted-- thank you for your sweet support and kind words as I pee on sticks and generally go bonkers.
ReplyDeleteAnd you, I am pulling for a completely fabulously uneventful several weeks, with as many ultrasounds as you want, with no more spotting.
warmly,
Kate
I'm so sorry you had to deal with this scare. Thank goodness your RE was so understanding and helpful. Be gentle with yourself this weekend and please take care. Wishing you both the best.
ReplyDeleteOh that just made my heart skip a few beats. I know that feeling and how scary that is!!! I will say my sis had spotting during both of her pregnancies and she has 2 healthy kids but I know for women like us that does not mean too much. These next weeks are going to be slow but we will all be here hoping and praying and cheering you on all the way! ((HUGS))
ReplyDeleteBTW you have a TOTALLY COOL AWESOME RE!!!
ReplyDeleteMo I'm sorry that you had to go through that scare and hope that there are no more. Glad your RE is so understanding and supportive - some RE's have really nice offices I can see moving in :-)
ReplyDeleteI cannot tell you how happy I am that you have such a wonderful RE who is so patient-focused. You and Will have been through the wringer and if anyone deserves to have a really awesome RE, it's you.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry about your spotting scare, but happy that Mini Mo is still snug as a bug. I had spotting (light pink and some brown) until 13w and it made my heart stop every single time. Infertility has taken away even the simple act of peeing without fear.
Take care of yourself! Sending many hugs.
Oooooh...hugely scary! I love your doctor...he is making sure that you are stress-free as far as his availability and accessibility is concerned.
ReplyDeleteMuch love and good wishes.
Totally scary. So glad your RE gets it. Even though he didn't have anything to do with this pg, he's very invested in it. Good for him!
ReplyDeleteHang in there. I know these next weeks are going to feel like forever.
Hey Mo -- just catching up on you after a few weeks out of the loop. SO happy to read that all is going well! I completely understand how you felt about the bleeding...I had bleeding at 6.5 weeks and was absolutely beside myself. It turned out to be a subchorionic hematoma, but that didn't stop the next couple of weeks from being truly nerve wracking. I also had a bit more spotting a few weeks ago, which also resolved on its own. Both are so very common, and I think you have every reason in the world to feel good about this! Try to stay distracted...I hope the next few weeks fly by for you. Your RE sounds fabulous -- so glad he is willing to give you the reassurance you need...it truly helps.
ReplyDeleteHow very, very scary, especially after all you have been through. Thank goodness for amazing REs who totally get it and are supportive. As you know, the 1st trimester goes by excruciatingly slowly, like an extended 2ww... but this little bean of yours is a fighter. Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteOh no, how frightening, so sorry you got that horrible scare. I had spotting, cramps and light bleeding for well over a week around the same time as you and it meant nothing, I know that doesn't necessarily help you but I figured every story you hear like that may help reduce the worry by a tiny fraction...
ReplyDeleteTake it very easy, it sounds like it's hopefully all OK from your scan.
i had that several times and it was super scary every.single.time. :( my doc told me that 50% of women that deliver healthy babies at term have some sort of spotting in the first trimester. i just kept thinking that every time the spotting started.
ReplyDeletehang in there. take your doc up on the offer. make sure YOU are taken care of, mentally and physically :)
Sorry about the scare! It's terrifying, isn't it?
ReplyDeleteI know this kind of thing doesn't help (you keep thinking but this is ME!) but I BLED (like a period) for about a week around the 6 - 7 week mark and had those two additional spotting scares at 20-something weeks and my two babies are healthy and perfect!
But relax! No cleaning the house or doing anything but laying around, ok?
I'm seconding most of the posters here - I know many IRL friends who spotted throughout the first tri and delivered healthy babies. You would think, if the universe was in anyway fair, that you'd be sailing smoothly, but we know better than that, don't we? Take it easy and know that you're in the thoughts of many.
ReplyDeleteMo - I've been lurking (and cheering you on silently!) for quite a while. Just wanted to share with you that I spotted my entire first trimester (later dx with placenta previa, but not sure why earlier on) and am now 38w with a healthy little one. We conceived on our 3rd fresh IVF cycle - 7th assisted cycle - following 4 miscarriages and one successful Russian adoption! Life is full of twists and turns. I am hoping and praying that this is the little one you will meet in the flesh!
ReplyDeleteTake good care of yourself,
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