Will and I figured we should let our dear doctor in Denver in our little plan to use an egg donor, so we had a phone regroup appointment with him several days ago.
The last time we talked to him (after our sixth miscarriage), he'd mentioned the possibility of using a gestational carrier as well as the possibility of us trying again with our frozen embryos. No mention was made of the possibility of using an egg donor (which is amazing, because it was the first thing he brought up when we had our first phone consult with him back in 2009).
I was a little worried that he would not support our idea, that he would be upset since we have the five chromosomally normal embryos tucked away in his lab freezer. I was prepared to have to convince him why this was a good idea.
My argument was going to be that we really don't know what is going wrong, whether there is something inherently wrong with my body that prevents me from carrying a pregnancy to term or whether there is something inherently wrong with our embryos that prevent them from making a take-home baby. And that approaching this scientifically, we thought that if we used donor egg embryos, we'd be able answer this question once and for all. If we use a surrogate, we still won't know whether I can carry a baby or not, which given its importance to me seems a critical question to answer.
I was all geared up to go and gave him my one sentence preamble when he said simply,
"I think that's a good idea."
It took a moment for me to recover on my end (see what happens when you engage in mind reading and fortune telling?), but he was fine with our decision. He was also totally on board that we're using an agency, said we're way ahead of the game that we have a donor selected, was positive about her age (23), and said she would very likely pass their screening.
Not sure why I thought that would be such an uphill battle. Piece of cake.
Now if we can just get me and this donor approved to go before I turn 50 and end up pregnant on a magazine cover, all will be well.
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