Friday, March 13, 2009

Taking the plunge

We spoke to our doctor, we talked amongst ourselves, we prayed, and finally, we held our breath and took the plunge.

Thank you for all of your thoughts about this decision and for your support. Especially for your support.

We decided to be aggressive (but hopefully not too aggressive).

In making the decision, we weighed Mo's history and age, as well as the fact that any embryos not transferred would almost certainly be discarded, since we've never had any extras make it to blast for freezing. Faced with the uterus or the trash can, we chose the uterus. We also considered the likelihood of miscarriage - there's around a 25% chance of miscarriage with any single embryo that does take hold - and the fact that our miscarriage risk is elevated, given our history of multiple aneuploidies.

We tried to be rational (being trained in science and all), taking in all the info and letting it simmer for awhile. But ultimately, this decision required a huge leap of faith.

So yesterday, around 3pm, we leapt.

And now, everybody is on board:



We are excited. We are terrified. And for the first time since the first IVF, we're actually thinking this might result in a pregnancy or two (or, gulp, three). And maybe even a real live baby (or babies) at the end of it all.

Beta is March 23. Holding our breath a little bit until then.

Mo and Will

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55 comments:

s.e. said...

Oh, your odds must have increased!

I was reading along agreeing with every single word but I must admit my eyes popped open a little wider when I saw the photo. How happy you must feel- instead of wondering if it worked you can question how many times!

And wanted to say thanks for your comment yesterday. It calmed me just as I was beginning to worry of OHSS. I am already doing better today and hope you are too.

May it all work out exactly as you have always dreamt!

DAVs said...

Those are some really nice looking embryos you have there! I'm so glad they're all resting up inside of you. I'm also glad you were aggressive. As someone who has been through four failed IVFs, I know the NEED to be aggressive.
Hoping the wait until the beta flies by!

Megan said...

Congratulations!!! I personally support your decision wholeheartedly, but I always tend to lean toward the more aggressive. I really hope this works for you guys. Sometimes to get big rewards you have to take big risks.

Lisa said...

I got goosebumps reading and looking at your little embies!!! They are all beautiful and I am hoping that you will succeed this time!!!

I think it was a great decision.

Nicole said...

What an amazing photo...

I'll be praying and hoping right along with you!

Mimi said...

I totally got goosebumps too and a tear in my eye. I am so excited for you two. I think you made a great decision!!! Good luck! I can't wait for the results.

Kami

Leslie Laine said...

Congrats on your big decision! Your embryos are beautiful!!!

Here's to good news on the 23rd!!

Thinking of you and praying for you.

dreamsandfalsealarms said...

holding my breath right a long with you.

Emily said...

I have been thinking about you guys! Bravo for taking the time to think things through, weigh the pros and cons and make an informed decision. I know it is not one that you took lightly. Wishing you all the luck in the world! C'mon embies!!! They're beauties!

m said...

just LOOK at those beauties! Good luck to you both. Don't forget to breathe.

momsoon said...

uhuh!!! that is what i am talking about!!!
I agree, we need to be aggressive to increase the odds- good/brave decision!!
I must say, I have seen alot of
"1st embaby photos" but those are particularly pretty for some reason!!!!
thinking of you and sending you lots of prayers...

musicmakermomma said...

Bravo - good luck with the 2ww! Can't wait to hear how it turns out (I'm sure you can relate!) and I love your blog. Thanks for posting.

Just Caz said...

Congrats on your transfer
Hoping all goes well for you both.

Bean said...

Thinking of you both and I'll be keeping my fingers crossed until the 23rd!

Duck said...

Mo - congrats! What a great picture, imagine all the possibilities. Can't wait to hear great news on March 23.

Mermaid said...

I know it was a tough decision but well thought out. Good luck! I'll be thinking of you both and those little embies on board!

I Believe in Miracles said...

Good luck!! I'm crossing my fingers for y'all.
~~HUGS~~

birdsandsquirrels said...

I'm all for being aggressive! Like you said, any embryos not transferred would likely have been discarded. I think you made a good decision.

I'm so excited for you guys!

WiseGuy said...

Good Luck...I have no great wisdom to share, but i can definetely send positive vibes your way....so here's my thumbs up!

nepsi said...

Good luck! Those embies look pretty good to me. I hope the golden egg is in there somewhere for you.

sprogblogger said...

I think you did the right thing, absolutely! I am looking forward to the 23rd. Fingers crossed!

Bluebird said...

Wow! So exciting! Will be waiting to hear the good news :)

Sassymama said...

Congrats!

Xbox4NappyRash said...

Huge decision.

Best of luck.

Dora said...

I think you made the right decision. I'll be doing the same thing in about a week and a half. Sometimes you just have to dive off the deep end. I'm here for you however this turns out.

BTW, I agree with everyone, they look lovely! You are going to be wonderful parents!

mlg- believe-n-miracles said...

YAY! I am so happy for you guys! I cant wait to hear the results. Those are some beautiful embies!

MFA Mama said...

For what it's worth (and while I do hold a terminal degree, it is not in a scientific field, so my whole-hearted approval and five bucks will get you a vente latte with an extra shot at Starbucks) I think you made a sound decision and am hoping for the best possible outcome (a baby or two) for the two of you :)

Barefoot said...

Congratulations! What a beautiful picture of your embryos. Wishing the best for you.

Barren Womb said...

Oh Wow! Great news. I wish the very best for you! Happy thoughts :)

Jason said...

Awesome! Snuggle in tight, little embies!

Andrea said...

Oops, that last comment was from me! Didn't realize I was signed into my hubby's google accoutn! LOL.

Me said...

I am not anti-SR. So... as long as you're not intent on trying to gestate quintuplets I am totally in favor of putting all five back!!! F/X! :)

'Murgdan' said...

WahoOoOoO! Counting down to the 23rd!

White Picket Fences said...

I am sooo excited for you both ..the embabies look beautiful! Talk about anxiety during the 2WW ....OMG. I'll be thinking about you both!

Clio said...

this was sure, I imagine, a very difficult decision for you guys. These embryos are certainly looking good, so I guess you may just have a baby (or two!) in the end this time.
Mo, I have a very good feeling that you just became a Mamma!!!

Kahla said...

Wishing you lots and lots of luck and waiting through the 2ww right along w/you!

Michelle said...

I am totally with you on this and support you. I am glad you amde this decision and I am rooting for you!

kirke said...

I completely support your decision!! I know it was a difficult one to make.

I got chills when I looked at the picture of the little embies...I will be thinking of you....

Soko's Journey to Parenthood said...

YAAAA, sounds like things went wonderful. Just get LOTS of bed rest for like 3-4 days if you can swing it. Seriously, I really think that is a key part of the process.

I am praying for you and can't wait to hear the updates as you get them :0)

We found out today during our first U/S that of the 3 we transferred 1 little strong fighter took :) It looks great and is doing awesome so far. YAAA

Keep us posted and I am sending lots of BABY DUST your way :0)

Take care,
Tracy

Melanie said...

You made the right decision. In your position, I would have done exactly the same thing. Thinking of you both of course, but I'm saving the big gun thoughts for those embyros. If necessary I'll even use those silly sayings infertiles use so often, like "sending you sticky thoughts" and "baby dust."

Or maybe not.

What IF? said...

Mo, what a courageous decision. I am rooting for those gorgeous little embabies to grow strong, and for you to continue to feel at peace with your choice. Take it easy, and know I'm thinking of you.

Phoebe said...

You have all my support over here from my end, no matter what happens. It's out of your hands now, not like you have any control anyways, though it's a nice fantasy. I mean that in the nicest way. It's all good.

glamcookie said...

Thanks for your kind comment on my blog. Wishing you great news on the 23rd!

lostintaipei said...

I AM SO keeping my fingers crossed for you guys. SO. I'm excited you chose to be aggressive...Path of least regrets.

strongblonde said...

i think that those embryos look great! i have high hopes for this cycle. be sure to take care of yourselves during the 2ww. :)

xoxo

Gil said...

Wow! Fantastic news. I am thrilled for you both and I'm keeping fingers crossed for your beta day.

Thank you too for the kind words on my blog. It helps to know that great blogging friends are out there and understand.

Good Egg Hunting said...

Fate loves the fearless. Good for you -- and I truly hope it pays off!

Cathy said...

Amazing! Congratulations on your transfer and I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that you get a sticky one (or two!).

squarepeg said...

Holy cow those are good looking embies! We transfered five once, but I swear to god they had horns and fur - awful looking. Still, scared the crap out of me.

I think it's the right decision, and I will be hoping it brings you just the right outcome :)

Erica said...

Most of the really big decisions we make in our lives come down to taking a plunge into the unknown - marriage, jobs, children - I hope so much that this cycle leads you to your happy ending.

Sending peaceful thoughts your way for this 2 WW....

michelle said...

Good luck to you and the embryos! Someone else said it already but I will say it too - anything worth doing is worth taking the plunge for.Good luck, fingers crossed and prayers coming your way!

IrishNYC said...

Oh wow! Everything crossed for you and your five little ones there. Grow and stick babies, grow and stick!

Denise said...

Wishing you a calm 2ww with a huge (but not too huge) BFP at the end!

Rachie Pachie said...

Oh, Oh, Oh! So glad to hear you went for it... I hope you have a smooth 2ww & that March 23 is here before we know it! :)

Here's for a pregnancy or two!

c by the sea said...

good luck! i will be thinking of you. i have my beta on the 24th, so i am waiting with you

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